What is a salutation?

Salutations are a way for members to "break the ice" and let you know that they liked your profile.

To send a salutation click on Salutation then choose from the pull down menu the salutation you would like to send. Finally click Send Salutation.

Can I send my personal contact information to other members via email?

We do not recommend exchanging personal information unless you are 100% confident that you can trust the recipient. DO NOT POST ANY PERSONAL CONTACT INFORMATION IN YOUR PROFILE. Anyone can view your profile so it is not wise to post this information openly on the internet. We reserve the right to delete your personal contact information from the site.

My email appears to have been deleted.

There are a few possibilities:

  1. You received an email notification for a message in your inbox that you have already read and deleted. You may have received the email notification late due to Spam Filters that your email provider has in place.
  2. The user that sent you a message has since deleted their profile from the site. Try searching for the username that contacted you to see if they still have a profile on the site.
  3. The message has been in your box for more then 30 days. All messages are deleted after 30 days to conserve space.

How do I change the email address where I get notifications?

You can change your email address on record by clicking on Home and then Settings (under My Profile) - type in your new email address and then click on the button marked "Update My Profile".

How do I send an email?

Clicking on 'Send Mail' from a users profile will send a message to the person.

If someone sent you an email it would be located in your MAIL on the site. To check on new messages click on MAIL located on the top bar visible from your home page.

Click on the subject line to open the message. Clicking on the users name will bring up their profile.


Why aren't any of my Contacts showing up?

A member can choose to "ignore this user" when they receive notification that you have added them to your Contacts list. If they do choose this option they will not show up under your Contacts Online list even when they are on the site.

How do I ADD someone to my Contacts list?

Add users to your Contacts list so that you can see when they are on the site. Users on your Contacts list that are logged onto the site will show up under Contacts Online.

To add a user to your Contacts list click on the persons picture to pull up their profile. Beside their user name you will see a link that says "+Add me as a Contact". Simply click on this link.

How do I REMOVE someone from my Contacts list?

To remove a user from your Contacts list click on Contacts find the profile you would like to remove then click on "Remove me from Contacts".

How do I put someone on an IGNORE list

Adding a user to your ignore list will prevent them from seeing that you are online. They will also no longer be able to send you messages.

To add someone to your ignore list while in chat click on their username, click ACTIONS select IGNORE THIS USER - ADDED TO IGNORE LIST will appear at the bottom of the chat text.

To add someone to your ignore list that has contacted you via EMAIL open an email that they have sent you then click on Ignore.

All future messages from this person will not reach your inbox, they will not be able to send you private messages and you will not show up on their Contacts list.

How do I REMOVE someone from my IGNORE list?

To take someone off of your ignore list click on Home then on Ignore List under My Profile.

Find the users name and then click remove from ignore list.

How do I view my contacts list?

To view your contacts list click on Contacts, visible above your profile on your home page. From the contacts page you can email, salute or remove users that are on this list.

I received a notification that someone added me to their Contacts list but they aren't listed under Admirers?

If the person that added you is not listed under Admirers then they have since chosen to remove you from their contacts list.


How does the profile rating system work?

When you open up an individuals profile you will see a bar underneath their profile with numbers on it from 1-10. You can rate the person's profile using this rating feature. Each profile can only be voted for once.

A profile's rating is the average of all votes cast for it.

Note 1 is bad and 10 is smokin hot - please don't abuse the rating system :)

How do I edit my profile?

From the Home page click Edit Profile in the My Account section. There are six headings in the Edit Profile screen: Basic, Personal, Physical, Extended, Location, and Settings. Here is a breakdown of what you can do in each section:

Basic: select your tagline, age, gender, and preference options.

Personal: select your relationship status, and languages.

Physical: adjust your profile to convey your appearance, style, and activities.

Extended: tell other users who view your profile what you are all about in your own words.

Location: change your home location.

Settings: change your notification settings, your external email and IM address, your password, and delete your profile.

NOTE: Make sure to click "Update my profile" button.

My home location is wrong - how do I change it?

You can change your home location at any time by going to the Home page and clicking on "Location" which is located in the My Profile section and then clicking on Location. Select your country in the pull down menu and type in the name of your city. If you live in the USA you can also search by State and Zip Code. When you are done press the button marked 'Search for My Location". If your location is in our database it will appear as a red link below. Simply click on this link to set it as your new home location.

If your location does not appear in the database try searching for larger towns or cities nearby.

How do I delete my profile?

You can delete your profile from the site at any time by clicking on Settings under My Profile on the Home page. Scroll down to the Profile Removal section and then click on the button marked 'Permanently Delete your Profile'. Your entire profile including all pictures, correspondence and contact information will be PERMANENTLY deleted.


How do I search for a particular user name?

If you know the user name of the member you are looking for type it in the text box available on the Search page under the basic tab.

You can conduct partial screenname searches.

For instance if you know the user had "sally" somewhere in their screenname type in betty and the search engine will retrieve all matches such as: sally78, sallysmith, etc.


How do I upload images?

To upload pictures click Home > Photos (under the My Profile section) > Browse. Once you've chosen the picture on your hard drive to post, select a position for it in the drop down menu, and then click UPLOAD THIS IMAGE. All pics must be in .jpg format in order for them to upload successfully.

NOTE: Your picture might not appear for up to 5 minutes. Check to see if your pic was uploaded after 5 minutes have passed.

How do I convert a pic to JPEG?

Here are step by step instructions on how to easily convert a pic to JPG.

  1. Open Microsoft Paint: Start - Programs - Accessories - Paint
  2. Open the picture by clicking on File - Open
  3. Click File - Save As - Where is says "Save as Type" select in the pull down list: JPEG File Interchange Format
  4. Click Save

How do I delete a pic?

To delete a pic from your profile click on Photos under My Profile then click on Delete located directly beside the image. You can replace an image by simply uploading a new image into the space of the image you no longer want on your profile.

You can also replace an image by simply uploading a new image into the space of the image you no longer want on your profile.

Why was my pic removed?

The main profile photo must be of YOU. Any other image will be deleted. It doesn't have to be a face pic, a cool body shot works great too.

You may upload pics of things other than yourself to your Album Pics however pictures of celebrities or any copy written material that is not your property will be deleted.

Pictures that have URL links, email addresses, websites etc will be promptly removed.

Pictures with minors are not allowed ANYWHERE on the site, regardless of context, and any picture of a child will be deleted.


How do I know a person's profile is real?

Unfortunately we cannot guarantee that the picture posted on a profile actually belongs to the person that registered the profile. We do recommend you use the video chat to verify a user's identity. We do not perform background checks on our users.

This site is for entertainment purposes only and does not pre-screen its members or registrants in any way. We do not and cannot make any warranties as to the claims made by our members. Please review our terms and conditions for full details. Please use your common sense and be careful about giving out personal information to people you meet on this site.

If you feel that a member is using this site for abusive or fraudulent purposes that are not in adherence with our terms, please contact us with their username so that we may investigate. You can do this easily by clicking on their profile and then clicking on the link that says "Report this profile".

How do I change my password?

To change your password click on Settings found in the My Profile section of your Home page. Then scroll down to the Change Your Password section and complete the changes.

NOTE: Your password may only contain letters and numbers and must be at least 6 characters in length. You must enter your new password twice to confirm it.

Safety Tips:
  • · Don't disclose contact details to somebody you've just met.
  • · Never give out credit card information to another member.
  • · Reporting abuse keeps our site safe and fun!